Don’t feel guilty if you’re the one outgrowing a friendship. And try not to judge your friend for not “keeping up with you.” Each of us must travel our own path, and we can’t be certain how long, and in what role anyone is going to be in our lives. But recognize that you are suffering a loss, whether of the friendship itself or of “the way it used to be.” Be gentle with yourself as you readjust.We human beings are constantly changing and growing, and change sometimes brings loss. Whenever we love someone, we risk the pain of losing them. But the alternative would be never loving at all.